There seems to be a tendency to think of personality traits such as introversion or extroversion as either “good” or “bad.” The truth is that personality traits come naturally to us, they’re not something we can change, and one is not better than another. Each of us need to learn about our own personality types and the types of those around us to be our best and do our best.
I was having a conversation about Introversion and Extroversion with a extroverted friend of mine. I was talking about how one of the ways that I recharge is during the drive home after work. It is a great time for me to unwind and do some thinking. She mentioned that during her drive home she is calling people and doesn’t like quiet time during her commute. What a sharp contrast! I look to this time to recharge and it is during this quiet, alone-time that I do some of my best thinking, while she uses it to connect and “extrovert recharge” by conversing with others on the phone.
We also talked about our differences when entering a room of strangers. She is looking to meet every single person and make a connection with each and every person. I, on the other hand, am looking to make a connection with maybe a person or two on a deeper level.
These types of conversations comparing our differences help me better understand myself to see who I am and who I want to be. To listen to her describe her “extrovert” needs and how different they are than mine helps me see that we each do have different needs.
I have my strengths and needs and my friend has hers. I am a strategic thinker and am filled with ideas. My friend is so good at making instant connections. We each have our strengths and no one person has them all. Let’s keep talking so we understand ourselves and each other.