Tag Archives: small talk strategies
Giving Great Customer Service for Introverts and Extroverts

I have a favorite convenience store that I think provides excellent service. It’s nice and clean with a wide selection of products, but what I really love is that I can get in and out quickly.  I actually will drive past a closer store that I don’t have such a high opinion of to go to […]

Relax… It’s Just Small Talk

I spent the past week celebrating the holiday with extended family in the mountains.  With some family members, I had a lot to talk about and catch up on. However, with others, it was a bit difficult to come up with conversation topics.  As an introvert, I generally prefer deeper conversations to small talk, but […]

Cancelled Appointments

I had a meeting cancelled this morning, and it was the best thing ever! I was able to get a lot of real work done. I’ve heard it said that, as introverts, we’re often happy when plans get cancelled. Why is this? Is it because we’re apprehensive about that social situation in which we have […]

#hatesmalltalk

Once again I found myself at a conference for work with all of its expectations of small talk and networking.  I generally don’t like small talk, but I can do it, and I did do some.  I especially do not enjoy small talk when it comes to strangers that I know I will not likely […]

Keep It Down Over There…

I have gotten so much better at small talk and keeping conversations going over the last couple of years, but I still have room for improvement. I have learned that small talk, while the topics may not be that interesting to me, can be a gateway to deeper conversations.   I also find myself in situations where […]

Hold Your Ground in Conversations

Often in conversations or meetings, as introverts we need time to think.  Sometimes our silence while thinking is misinterpreted that we don’t have anything to say.  In her book, Introvert Power, Dr. Laurie Helgoe says in these situations we must “hold our ground”. Dr. Helgoe says: “While the introvert is reflecting on the question (thinking […]

Slow It Down a Little

  It’s often said that introverts prefer a small circle of close friends.  I find this to be true for me.  I definitely do like to know a few people very well and be known well by them.  I enjoy being with those who “get me” and as a result, we are able to engage in […]

The Cat Still Sometimes Has My Tongue

An expression I have always hated is “Has the cat got your tongue?”  I am not sure exactly where this expression came from, but it basically means “Why aren’t you talking?” I don’t know if it’s used much anymore, but it’s a term from my childhood equivalent to calling someone quiet or shy. It’s true; […]

Small Talk

I have come to the conclusion that small talk may have not been interesting to me for its own sake. I really don’t care to talk about the weather or how delicious food is. However, small talk can be a great tool to build relationships in all aspects of life. People can get better at […]