Image courtesy of Marie Haggarty/
Image courtesy of Marie Haggarty/

If you follow my blog, you know I’m an introvert and I love to study personality, particularly as it relates to introversion and extraversion.  So, for fun, I recently attended a lunch-time workshop on Personality Styles in the Workplace.  During the session, we took a quick personality quiz that identified us as either a bumblebee, dog, lion, or peacock.  In the activity, I was identified as a lion.  The way the lion was described wasn’t quite accurate for me, but none of the other animals completely identified me either.  This was just supposed to be a quick introductory quiz and I hope no one thought it was very scientific. 

One of the presenters was a peacock.  In my continued exploration of introversion and extroversion, it was interesting to hear her describe herself.  She was definitely an extrovert. She described herself as bubbly, enthusiastic,  friendly, outgoing, and talkative.  She also talked about how her social calendar was planned out for months.  And how any cancellation would quickly be filled.

As an introvert, I used to be shy, but have overcome my shyness.  Introversion does not mean shyness and I am far more social than I was in the past.  But listening to the presenter describe herself made me realize another difference I have from extroverts. As an introvert, I can be enjoy being social, but I will never be as social as she describes (with a full social calendar!), nor do I want this.  I don’t have the desire to be social every minute of the day.  I have learned that I need a balance.  I do need people, but also need some time alone.  And, I have learned to find the right balance for myself between social interactions and solitude.  This reminds me of a favorite quote:

Whatever kind of introvert you are, some people will find you ‘too much’ in some ways and ‘not enough’ in others.

Laurie Helgoe, Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength.

At times, people are going to find me not social enough.  People can also find me too much when I get going about the mysteries of the universe.  The point is that I will never be the “peacock.”  I don’t want to be.  I found the presenter’s description of her personality traits beneficial as I continue on my quest to understand others and myself.  It’s not about the labels, but about getting a deeper understanding, as I seek to utilize my strengths to get what I need and want out of life.  

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