Episode 141 explores the power of free change for introverts, focusing on preparing for success.

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Are you an introvert who sometimes feels overwhelmed before important events or presentations? In this episode of The Quiet and Strong Podcast, host David Hall explores the power of pre-charging as a key ingredient for success as an introvert.

Discover how pre-charge time can help you prepare, relax, and get in the right frame of mind to tackle any challenge. With practical strategies and insights, David discusses the importance of setting realistic expectations, prioritizing quiet time, and communicating your needs to others. 

Tune in to learn valuable strategies for pre-charging and recharging as an introvert, and gain insights on finding balance between alone time and social interactions. Whether you’re an introvert looking to enhance your personal growth or someone seeking a deeper understanding of introversion, this episode is packed with valuable takeaways.

Don’t miss out on this enlightening discussion that will empower you to prepare for success as an introvert and be strong.

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Timestamped Overview

[00:02:15] How introverts can precharge and get in the right mindset for meetings/presentations: take time alone, relax, gather thoughts, set realistic expectations.

[00:04:17] Productivity is about meaningful work. Introverts need quiet time for reflection and planning. A weekly review helps with organization and planning.

[00:08:02] It’s important to balance alone time and social interactions for personal growth and well-being. Develop a positive mindset as an introvert and embrace self-acceptance to navigate social situations with ease. Reframe thoughts to motivate and appreciate introverted qualities.

[00:11:55] Strive for improvement, reflect inward, give best effort, seek ways to enhance performance, adopt positive self-talk.

[00:13:22] Acknowledge resistance, practice self-compassion, reframe thoughts, use time management techniques, and reward yourself for motivation.

Key Takeaways from this Episode

– Precharge as an introvert before important events or activities.

– Prioritize quiet time for reflection and recharge.

– Set realistic expectations for yourself and recognize the value of introversion.

– Communicate your needs to others and set appropriate boundaries.

– Schedule regular weekly reviews to plan for quiet time and stay organized.

– Set realistic expectations for social interactions and plan downtime before and after.

– Engage in activities that recharge you and take time for solitude.

– Employ introvert-friendly strategies in social settings, such as small group conversations and conversation starters.

– Cultivate a positive mindset by embracing self-acceptance and reframing negative thoughts.

Podcast Transcript

David Hall [00:00:09]:

Hello, and welcome to episode 141 of the Quiet and Strong Podcast especially for introverts. I’m your host, David Hall, and the creator of quietandstrong.com. This is a weekly podcast dedicated to understanding the strengths and needs of introverts. Introversion is not something to fix, but to be embraced. Normally, we’ll air each episode on a Monday. Be sure to subscribe on your favorite platform. Leave a review. That would mean a lot to me.

David Hall [00:00:33]:

Tell a friend about the podcast. Help get the word out there that introversion is a beautiful thing. So I was giving a presentation this past week, and I was just not into it. Actually generally enjoy giving presentations, but on this particular day, I was feeling overwhelmed. I had a lot of unexpected demands on me All at once that week. Have you been there? I’m sure you have a key part of success as an introvert it’s preparation. And in this case, I didn’t have the preparation I would have liked to have had. So you’ve heard of introvert recharge? Taking a break after certain activities, after certain types of things? How about Introvert Precharge? This is the time that helps you prior to the event.

David Hall [00:01:24]:

For example, I’ve had at least I usually give myself at least an hour of precharge time Before I interview a guest for the podcast, it gives me time to prepare for the guest, maybe review further some information about them, Think about the types of things I want to discuss, make sure all the equipment’s working, and clear my head and relax. This helps me get in the right frame of mind. Of course, with all my guests, I’m looking forward to speaking with them, but this precharge time Makes for a better experience. Of course, the ideal doesn’t always happen. Things go wrong. What can you do? Or maybe you do have adequate preparation, but you’re just not feeling like it. I wasn’t for this presentation. I was feeling overwhelmed.

David Hall [00:02:15]:

I didn’t have the precharge time that I like. So what do you do when you’re just not feeling it? Or maybe you have a sense of dread or you’re overwhelmed or burned out in that moment or for that time? How do you do that meeting or presentation or conversation when you really need to? What do you do? So let’s discuss a couple things: How we can plan for pre charge and recharge as introverts, and how we can get in the right mindset when we’re not. So on precharge, one way to precharge as an introvert is to give yourself some time alone before the meeting or presentation. Find a quiet space where you can relax, gather your thoughts and recharge your energy. If you need to. This could be as simple as Taking some deep breaths or engaging in a calming activity like listening to music or reading something inspirational. Another helpful strategy is to set realistic expectations for yourself. Recognize it’s okay if you’re not feeling 100% Enthusiastic about the situation.

David Hall [00:03:21]:

For example, if you feel strange or different for not being outwardly energetic As other people might be remind yourself that you have amazing gifts. Introversion is a natural part of who you are It doesn’t diminish your values or abilities. In fact, it’s what makes you brilliant. So in order to precharge as an introvert, it’s important to prioritize quiet time for reflection and recharge and precharge. This can include, You know, setting some time each day for that time. And then every so often, maybe every couple months or so Really have some deep reflection and planning. It’s also important to communicate your need to others and set appropriate boundaries. For example, blocking off the 1st 90 minutes of my day for quiet time has been extremely helpful.

David Hall [00:04:17]:

Where can you block off time? What would work best? Remember, productivity is not about being busy, But it’s doing meaningful work that aligns with your strengths and needs. As introverts, we need quiet time for many reasons, not just recharge or pre charge as we’re talking about, but Reflection and planning, recharging and self care creative pursuits, problem solving decision making, Getting some work done. As an introvert, a weekly review will help you get organized and plan for the quiet time you need either for some planning, Thinking creatively, getting some work done, or relaxing and recharging. To do a weekly review, Gather and process all your tasks and commitments. Review your system. Update your lists. Make sure everything is is clean, clear, current, and complete. It’s helpful to schedule a standing appointment with yourself at the end of each week To review what you’ve accomplished and what needs to happen in the upcoming week.

David Hall [00:05:23]:

This can include looking at your calendar, Preparing for meetings, setting aside some quiet time for reflection and planning. And I know for me, it could be different every week. I could have A week of a lot of different draining type of activities. And I might try to plug in some different recharge time depending on the type of activity. So it’s important to review your week, see what you have going on, see where you might need a break, or you might need to do some quieter activities. So it’s important to do that each week and look at your calendar on a daily and weekly basis. So you’ve made your best plans or maybe not. And you’re just not feeling it.

David Hall [00:06:07]:

Maybe it’s not just A presentation or a single event that day, but maybe you just don’t feel like it for the day. You know, facing the world on days when you’d rather stay in as an introvert can be challenging, But sometimes there are things that we have to do feeling it or not. So here’s a few tips to help you navigate such days or such events. So set realistic expectations. Understand that you don’t have to be the life of the party. Maybe sometimes you are, but you don’t have to be, Or you don’t have to engage in extensive social activities every time you step outside instead set realistic expectations for yourself, Decide on the level of social interaction you’re comfortable with and stick to it. Plan downtime before and after. If you have an event or obligation that requires social interaction, find downtime both before and after.

David Hall [00:07:00]:

This allows you to pre charge Before you go out and decompress after schedule some time alone to balance the social engagement On days when you’d rather stay in, take time for activities that recharge you or spending some time alone. What activities recharge you? Employ strategies that work well for introverts in social settings. For example, If you know, you’re going to have some type of networking event, have a few conversation starters or topics ready so that you can ease into conversations. And, you know, we thrive in 1 on 1 in small groups. So seek those out where you can have more meaningful conversations rather than large overwhelming gatherings. And don’t be afraid to set boundaries and communicate your needs with your friends and family. Let people know that you might need breaks or moments of solitude during social events. Most people will understand and respect your introverted nature.

David Hall [00:08:02]:

Remember, it’s okay to have days when you want to stay in and recharge. It’s part of your natural personality In honoring your need for solitude and taking care of yourself, it’s important for your well-being. However, finding a balance between the alone time And social interactions is key to personal growth and maintaining relationships. So try to expand your comfort zone sometimes and enjoy new experiences and connections While giving yourself that time alone that you need. Sometimes you have to develop a positive mindset in the moment When you’re not feeling that presentation or meeting, developing a positive mindset is an introvert can greatly enhance your overall well-being and and help you navigate social situations with ease. Here’s some strategies to cultivate a positive outlook: 1st, Embrace self acceptance if needed. Embrace your unique qualities, appreciate the strengths that come with being introverted, such as deep thinking, attentiveness, creativity, and many, many more. Reframing your thoughts can be a powerful way to change your perspective and motivate yourself.

David Hall [00:09:13]:

When you don’t feel like doing something, here’s some strategies to help you reframe your thoughts. So identify those negative thoughts. You know, in my case, I just really didn’t want to give a presentation right then Start by recognizing the negative thoughts or excuses that are holding you back. What are you telling yourself about the task or activity you don’t want to do? Maybe I’m saying this presentation isn’t going to be interesting or I am overwhelmed. So challenge those negative thoughts. Once you’ve identified them, challenge their validity. Ask yourself, are these thoughts based on facts or assumptions? Are they helping or hindering my progress? Find the why. Remind yourself of the reasons why the task or activity is important.

David Hall [00:10:03]:

Books on the benefits or the end result you’ll achieve, understand the why behind what you need to do Provide motivation. So in my case, there was a reason why I was giving that presentation. I was the expert in that particular topic. Break it down. If the task feels overwhelming, break it down into smaller, manageable steps. Reframe your thoughts by telling yourself you only need to complete 1 part of this task at a time. Positive affirmations. Use positive affirmations to counter negative thoughts, repeat affirmations that encourage and motivate you.

David Hall [00:10:46]:

For example, if you’re procrastinating on a work project, say to yourself, I’m capable and I can handle this task. Or in my case, I’m going to do a great job on this presentation. I’m the expert and I’m the one to give it. It’s gonna go well, and I’m gonna have fun. And my favorite thing to tell myself is, you got this. Tell yourself you got this, Especially if you’re hearing other voices in your head telling you otherwise. And then visualize your success. Imagine yourself successfully completing a task or activity.

David Hall [00:11:20]:

Imagine yourself having fun giving this presentation. Visualize a positive outcome, and that can boost your confidence and enthusiasm. And, focus on progress, not perfection. Reframe your thoughts by shifting your focus from perfection to progress. Tell yourself that taking a step forward, even a small one, is an achievement. Perfectionism, it can be a killer Success. I know that’s been the case for me. I fight perfectionism by telling myself I’m not perfect, and nobody else is either.

David Hall [00:11:55]:

I’m going to do my best preparation, do my best work. And then after use my superpower of introverted reflection to keep getting better. So in the case of the presentation, it wasn’t perfect. I don’t think any presentation is, But I did my best work. I gave, I gave my best effort, even though I, at first I didn’t feel like it. And I think it went well. And then you can always think about after, you know what I did good, but how can I make that even better? And change your language. Pay attention to the words that you use when you’re talking to yourself, replace negative or self defeating language with more positive and empowering words.

David Hall [00:12:40]:

For instance, instead of saying I have to do this with, I want to do this, or this is going to be fun. Shift your perspective, Consider how your actions align with your long term goals or values. Reframe the task as a stepping stone towards your desired future rather than a burden. It’s part of what you need to do to keep progressing or to get your job done. Find intrinsic motivation, Discover what aspects of the task you really enjoy or find fulfilling. Focus on these aspects to create a sense of motivation. And practice self compassion. Be kind and understanding toward yourself.

David Hall [00:13:22]:

Acknowledge that it’s okay to have moments of resistance or lack of motivation it happens to all of us. Self compassion can help you reframe your thoughts in a more positive and supportive way. Reframing your thoughts is a skill that takes practice. Be patient with yourself as you work to change your mindset, and over time, you’ll find it easier to motivate yourself even when you don’t feel like doing something. And along with reframing your thoughts, remember, use time management techniques to prepare and precharge, and then promise yourself recharge time and maybe something rewarding after that thing that you don’t feel like doing. What would that recharge and reward look like for you? Overall, my presentation went well. I did give myself a break after, And then I took some time for review and I looked at my priorities so that I could get away from that overwhelming feeling and and really map out what I needed to do and not be overwhelmed. So I was ready for the next meeting or presentation.

David Hall [00:14:31]:

You have some great gifts and some important work to do. There’s gonna be some times where you don’t feel like doing something. What are some strategies that work for you? Remember, as an introvert, Your success strategies will look different from your extroverted colleagues. Plan your pre charge and recharge. Remember your great strengths and accomplishments, and remind yourself you got this. Thank you so much for joining me. I hope you take the time to explore other episodes and learn from our amazing guests. Remember, if you’re interested in getting to know yourself better, There is now a free Typefinder personality assessment on the Quiet and Strong website.

David Hall [00:15:12]:

This free assessment will give you a brief report, including the four letter The four letter Myers Briggs code, I will add a link to the show notes. And I’d love to connect with you. Reach out at david@quietandstrong.com or check out the quiet and strong .com website, which includes blog posts, links to social media for Quiet and Strong, and much more. Send me topics or guests you would like to see on the show. There’s so many great things about being an introvert, and so we need those things to be understood. Get to know your introverted strengths and needs, and be strong.

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