Quiet IS Strong! I have learned to celebrate what’s great about being an introvert. The words quiet and strong are not a dichotomy. I believe this now, but I did not always. I tried for many years to figure out how to be more like others and not be so “quiet”. Ironically, I have discovered that the “quiet” part of me is what makes me strong. And understanding yourself makes you strong. As you make plans for the future be sure to keep your strengths and needs as an introvert in mind.
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Now Discover Your Strengths – Marcus Buckingham & Donald Clifton
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Quiet IS Strong
Hello, and welcome to the Quiet and Strong Podcast, Especially for introverts. I am your host, David Hall and creator of quietandstrong.com. This is a weekly podcast dedicated to understanding the strengths and needs of introverts. Introversion is not something to fix, but to be embraced. Normally we will air each episode on Mondays. Be sure to subscribe on your favorite platform.
Quiet is Strong! I have learned to celebrate what’s great about being an introvert. The words quiet and strong are not a dichotomy. I believe this now, but I did not always. I tried for many years to figure out how to be more like others and not be so “quiet”. Ironically, I have discovered that the “quiet” part of me is what makes me strong. And understanding you makes you strong. For me. I am very analytical. I think deeper and often see things differently than others. This is a good thing! I challenge old ways of thinking and push for a better future. Understanding this, I am not as “quiet” as I used to be, but I am usually going to think before speaking. I have learned that I need some time alone often to do some thinking and prepare my thoughts. What makes you strong? Hopefully, you have always known what is great about you. You have great gifts and also as an introvert you have some specific needs. I know I am much happier, and far more successful than I’ve ever been, simply by being true to myself and my strengths and honoring my needs. I have learned to be my best and not compare myself to others and their gifts. I know what is best for me and what I like to do.
One of my favorite books is “Now Discover your Strengths” by Marcus Buckingham amd Donald Clifton. It comes with the StrengthsFinder Profile thirty-four distinct talents or “themes.” StrengthsFinder gives you your top 5. As Marcus Buckingham said:
“You grow most in your areas of greatest strength. You will improve the most, be the most creative, be the most inquisitive, and bounce back the fastest in those areas where you have already shown some natural advantage over everyone else – your strengths. This doesn’t mean you should ignore your weaknesses. It just means you’ll grow most where you’re already strong.” So although this book and assessment isn’t about introversion and extroversion it was an important part of understanding strengths and personality traits come very natural to us and we can excel by embracing them. I am giving my strengths and needs a lot of thought as things are changing once again. It has been a strange year for sure. It was a time to step back and and look at what is most important. It was also a time to think further about my strengths and needs as an introvert in a new environment. I have been telecommuting for the past year and likely I will start some days in the office in a few weeks. Things will not be the same. What have we learned in 2020 that we will carry us forward?
What are your introverted goals in 2021? Where have you been? What do you want? What are your dreams? You can achieve your goals, but you need to understand how you work best. Find some quiet time and reflect on what you want most. What do you want for your loved ones? Work? Health? Spirituality? What do you like to do for fun? What are your most important priorities in each of these areas?
Recognizing that this “quiet” part of me is a strength has allowed me to focus on what I am best at and grow stronger in those areas, instead of rejecting what I am good at to try to be more like others. I continually work on both my strengths and my weaknesses, but I often find that while I’m making baby steps on my weaknesses, I make progress in leaps and bounds when working on my strengths.
I may be quiet, but I am strong. I have great contributions to make and my ideas are very valuable. Being quiet is what makes me strong. I may need to work harder to get my ideas heard and make my contributions, but I have learned that hard work is at the root of most success. What makes you strong?
By understanding who I am, I can approach life boldly with my introverted strengths and gifts and take care of my introverted needs. Here is a personal statement of my strengths and needs as an introvert: What would yours look like?
- I am only strong when I understand who I am and what I need.
- Quiet does not mean shy. Quiet for me means thinking before speaking, taking time to reflect, and getting lost in deep thought from time to time. Quiet is a gift.
- I usually need to think before speaking.
- I need to let people know when I need time to think.
- I need to set aside some alone time each day, whether at home or work, for reflection and recharge.
- I need to act according to my values and not worry what people think.
- There are some things about myself that I cannot change, such as the way I spend a lot of time in deep thought, but there are many things I CAN change, such as my thoughts around irrational fears.
- I can engage in small talk when I want to or need to, but it is fine if I avoid some.
- I need to work to make connections with everyone in my life.
- It takes work to deepen the close relationships I have, and it is worth it.
- I need to prepare for presentations and meetings as appropriate to minimize on-the-spot time to think.
- I need to remember to make my intentions, plans, and vision known to others and not assume they understand what is so clear in my head.
- I am a master at reflection and can use this ability to be better each day. I benefit greatly by reading the words of others and reflecting on them.
- I need to let my voice be heard, whether in person or through writing.
- I need to strive to have focus as I work on important and meaningful projects. Multitasking is not usually effective for me.
- I remember that everyone has great gifts, including me. I will be my very best and only compare to myself and not others.
What does your personal statement look like?
Be proud of who you are and the gifts you have to offer the world! I hope you are able to celebrate who you are.
Thank you so much for joining me. I look forward to further connecting with you. Reach out quietandstrong.com. I will add social media channels to the show notes. Please comment on the social media posts related to this podcast. Send me topics or questions and we can address those on the show. So many great things about being an introvert and so we need those to be understood. Let’s keep the conversation going. Get to know your introverted strengths and needs and be Strong!