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Are you ready to bust some myths about being an introvert? 

Then tune in to Episode 108, where we tackle the 10 most ridiculous questions about introversion and explore the truth behind them. From exploring the idea that introverts can’t be successful in “extroverted “careers, to the misconceptions surrounding their social skills, we’ll break down the myths and provide a fresh perspective on what it means to be an introvert.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to gain a better understanding of introversion and its unique strengths. Whether you are an introvert yourself or simply looking to learn more about this personality trait, our episode is full of insights and tips to help you thrive and succeed. So sit back, relax, and get ready to challenge your perceptions of introversion with Introvert Success.

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00;00;08;16 – 00;00;32;17
David Hall
Hello and welcome to Episode 108 of the Quiet and Strong Podcast, especially for introverts. I’m your host, David Hall, and the creator of It’s a weekly podcast dedicated to understanding the strengths and needs of introverts. Introversion is not something to fix, but to be embraced. Normally, while our each episode on a Monday. Be sure to subscribe on your favorite platform ever review.

00;00;32;25 – 00;01;00;28
David Hall
That would mean a lot to me. Tell a friend about the podcast. Help get the word out there that introversion is a beautiful thing. On the podcast, me and my guest do plenty of myth-busting about introversion and work to clear up misunderstandings. As I continue to help bust myths.. I took a look at some of the questions that are being asked online, such as Can introverts turn into extroverts if they try hard enough?

00;01;01;28 – 00;01;33;10
David Hall
Or do introverts not like people at all? Or can introverts be successful only in solitary careers? There are some stereotypes out there that are not only incorrect. They’re also harmful. They perpetuate that idea that introversion is a weakness or a deficit. In reality, it’s just a different way of being. So in this episode, I’m going to look at ten questions that people are asking about introversion that are based on myths.

00;01;33;18 – 00;01;58;17
David Hall
And of course, do some myth busting while we continue to show how amazing and successful introverts can be. So whether you’re an introvert or someone that knows one. Let’s get started. So let’s get started with the first one. Can introverts turn into extroverts if they try hard enough? No. That’s my simple answer. And I do hear this or versions of this one often.

00;01;59;16 – 00;02;24;17
David Hall
You know, introversion. It’s a very natural way of being. The myth that introverts can turn into extroverts if they try hard enough, it’s out there. Introversion and extroversion, of course, are personality traits that are largely determined by biology and genetics. While we certainly can develop new skills and habits, we can’t fundamentally change who we are at the core.

00;02;25;03 – 00;02;52;09
David Hall
Introversion is turning inward more than not having a preference for that inner world of ideas. If what’s meant by the question, how can introverts be more social, then yes, that can absolutely happen. It comes down to determining what you want, understanding your preferences and developing new skills when needed. Extroverts may need to look at this too, if they’re not as social as they want to be.

00;02;53;26 – 00;03;21;25
David Hall
If you are introvert or extrovert and you lack confidence, you can absolutely gain confidence. But the approach will be different between introverts and extroverts. It’s important to remember that introverts can still be social and enjoy being around people, but they do need to recharge in different ways. And extroverts. Introversion has its own strengths and benefits and trying to become something you’re not.

00;03;22;05 – 00;03;51;24
David Hall
Is a recipe for frustration and unhappiness. For introverts, trying to be an extrovert can be especially exhausting, draining and not effective. Instead of trying to turn into an extrovert, introverts should embrace and celebrate their own unique strengths and qualities. They can develop social skills and find ways to connect with others that work for them and their introverted personalities without having to completely change who they are.

00;03;53;10 – 00;04;21;26
David Hall
So along with that question, too, is being an introvert a choice? The idea that being an introvert is a choice is a common myth that is simply not true. Introversion is a personal trait, and like we said just a second ago, it’s largely determined by biology and genetics. While introverts may choose to engage in certain behaviors that align with introvert tendencies, they did not choose to be introverted in the same way they might choose a career or hobby.

00;04;22;13 – 00;04;57;23
David Hall
Introversion is a fundamental aspect of an individual’s personality, and it influences how we interact with the world around us. Some introverts may prefer quieter or stimulation environments and may feel overwhelmed by large social gatherings or crowded spaces. They may also prefer deep, meaningful conversations and solitary activities to more surface level type of interactions. It’s important to note that introversion is not the same thing as shyness.

00;04;58;14 – 00;05;26;27
David Hall
Shy individuals may feel uncomfortable or nervous in social situations, while introverts simply may prefer to spend time alone or in smaller groups. Introversion shyness and social anxiety are related but are distinct concepts. Understanding the differences between these three traits can help you better understand yourself and others. Shyness and social anxiety are treatable and can be managed or even overcome.

00;05;27;25 – 00;06;00;05
David Hall
Introversion is not something to treat. There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert, but you do need to understand it. So question three Do introverts not like people at all? I find it kind of funny. Introverts like people as humans, we all need connections. Introverts just simply approach social interaction differently than extroverts. And again, they may tend to prefer small or more intimate gatherings or one on one activities.

00;06;01;09 – 00;06;33;04
David Hall
They may become overwhelmed or exhausted by large and noisy crowds. That doesn’t mean they don’t like people. It just means they have different social preferences and needs. It’s also important to know that some introverts can be highly empathetic and enjoy helping others. They can have deep and meaningful relationships with their friends and family. It can be highly engaged in support of members of their communities rather than assuming that introverts don’t like people.

00;06;33;23 – 00;07;04;14
David Hall
It’s better to understand and appreciate the nuances of our personalities and the different ways that we connect with others, said the number four. Can introverts only be successful in solitary careers? No. There is not one right job for introverts. Introverts need to engage in work that uses their strengths, honors their needs, and of course, provides the proper financial outcomes.

00;07;04;25 – 00;07;37;20
David Hall
So what is your passion? What are your talents? Introverts are often skilled at tasks that require focused attention to detail, independent problem solving, and they can excel in careers such as writing, research, technology and finance. At the same time, introverts can also be successful in careers that involve lots of networking or public speaking or many other things, provided that they have the skills and the training to excel in those roles.

00;07;38;23 – 00;08;05;21
David Hall
It’s possible for an introvert to excel in a career is often thought of as extroverted, such as sales. The truth is, there’s not extroverted careers, just the approach to sales would look different from an introvert to an extrovert. Either can be wildly successful by leveraging your unique skills and qualities. Introverts can be successful in any career that they choose.

00;08;06;14 – 00;08;42;15
David Hall
Rather than limiting yourself to a solitary career. Introverts should explore the full range of possibilities and find the career that’s right for them. Question five Are introverts always serious and never have fun or. This sounds funny to me too. Introverts are individuals with diverse personalities, interests, hobbies, and of course, everybody wants to have fun. Some introverts may simply have a different style of having fun.

00;08;43;17 – 00;09;12;24
David Hall
Some may prefer low key, solitary activities, such as reading a book, watching a movie, or going for a walk. Some may enjoy introspective forms of entertainment such as playing music or creating art. Some introverts may enjoy quiet and calm activities, while others may enjoy more adventurous activities. Ultimately, the important thing is that individuals engage in activities they enjoy and bring them joy fulfillment.

00;09;14;07 – 00;09;44;05
David Hall
Introverts are individuals with diverse personalities and interests, and their preferences for activities can vary widely. While many introverts may prefer quiet and calm activities, this does not mean they cannot enjoy and participate in more adventurous or even loud activities. Introverts may also enjoy adventurous activities that involve close relationships with smaller groups of people. Maybe rock climbing or whitewater rafting or kayaking.

00;09;44;11 – 00;10;18;22
David Hall
Sometimes adventure might just be more fun and meaningful with a smaller group of friends. So what is fun to you? Do that and don’t let others dictate what you should think is fun. So question number six Are introverts always reserved and never express their opinions? I know some very outspoken in introverts. It’s important to remember that introversion is a personality trait and it influences how we interact with the world around us.

00;10;18;25 – 00;10;50;22
David Hall
But it does not dictate our confidence, assertiveness, or the ability to express our opinions. Some introverts may be more reserved and may prefer to observe and listen, while others may be more confident in assertive, in expressing opinions. Again, if you’re not confident, you can change that. Some introverts may choose to express their opinions in a more private or intimate setting, such as a one on one conversation or written communication where they feel more comfortable and confident.

00;10;51;25 – 00;11;17;22
David Hall
They may also choose to express their opinions through creative outlets such as writing, art, music. We are gifted thinkers and often need some time to prepare for meetings, conversations, presentations, speeches, do research ahead of time. Take some time to formulate your thoughts and make yourself some notes on the points that you want to make. And you can be an outspoken introvert too.

00;11;18;22 – 00;11;50;26
David Hall
Question seven Our introverts are always introspective and never spontaneous. So introversion and extroversion are significant parts of our personality. But there’s other aspects of our personality, too. While introverts may be more introspective to enjoy solitude and quiet reflection, this does not mean that introverts never engage in spontaneous activities, or they cannot be spontaneous in their own way. But it really depends on the person.

00;11;52;00 – 00;12;22;19
David Hall
Some introverts in general like to be more bland, and some in general like to be more spontaneous. Introversion as a personality trait influences how we interact with the world around us, but doesn’t dictate all of our behavior or preferences. And some may be very spontaneous and adventurous, and others like to have things planned out. All right. Number eight, do introverts hate parties and large social gatherings?

00;12;23;19 – 00;12;51;26
David Hall
Again, not a one size fits all answer here either. Some introverts may indeed prefer a quieter and more intimate social settings, but others may enjoy parties and large social gatherings just as much as is their extroverted friends. The reality is that introverts and extroverts have different ways of recharging their social batteries and interacting with others. Introverts may feel drained after spending a lot of time in social situations.

00;12;52;21 – 00;13;22;27
David Hall
While extroverts may thrive in such environments. However, that doesn’t mean that introverts necessarily hate parties and large social gatherings. Introverts simply have different preferences and approaches to socializing. For example, they may prefer to attend smaller, more intimate gatherings where they can have more meaningful conversations. They may also prefer socialize in a setting where they can retreat to a quiet space when they need time to recharge.

00;13;24;11 – 00;14;00;07
David Hall
Again, there’s not a one size fits all answer here. For me, I actually like loud parties and concerts. I just don’t like to try and talk when there’s a lot of noise. Question number nine Can introverts only be creative when they are alone? No. This will also depend on the introvert and the situation. While it is true that some introverts may find that they’re more productive and creative when they are alone and in a quiet environment, this does not mean that all introverts are limited to these conditions.

00;14;01;12 – 00;14;35;25
David Hall
Introverts can be creative and productive in a variety of settings, including groups in a more social environment. In fact, introverts can bring unique perspectives and approaches to creative projects, and they may be able to work effectively with others in a team setting. Additionally, introverts may have unique strengths that allow them to excel in creative pursuits. For example, introverts are naturally introspective, which can lead to greater self-awareness and a better understanding of our own thoughts and feelings.

00;14;36;19 – 00;15;10;17
David Hall
And this can lead to more introspective art in other creative projects. You know, I’ve had some amazing group brainstorming sessions. We’re great ideas are born from a diversity of perspective and experience. But I’ve also had some incredibly innovative ideas letting my mind go into deep thought on my own in over a period of time. Often we need to acknowledge that both groups and individual work can be very effective for introverts.

00;15;11;16 – 00;15;50;13
David Hall
Consider each situation. Again, not a one size fits all here either. What would be best for that situation and your strengths? Number ten Do introverts lack social skills and have trouble communicating with others? So it’s possible for an introvert to have good social skills and for a extrovert to lack them. A lack of social skills can come from a variety of factors, including shyness, anxiety, a lack of experience interacting with others, or sometimes a lack of practice.

00;15;50;23 – 00;16;22;09
David Hall
It’s not an inherent part of being an introvert, and introverts can definitely develop some good social skills with practice and effort and understand. On the other hand, an introvert may sometimes prefer to limit their social interactions, but that doesn’t mean that they lack social skills. They may simply refer to spend more time alone recharging through solitary activities and have a more introspective and reflective personality.

00;16;23;13 – 00;16;55;16
David Hall
Introverts may prefer one on one conversations or small group discussions where they can express themselves more fully and feel more comfortable. They may also be excellent listeners providing thoughtful and insightful feedback to others. Introverts may also be effective communicators in writing where they can express themselves more fully and clearly. They may be skilled at email, text and other forms of written communication and may feel more comfortable expressing themselves in these formats than face to face conversations.

00;16;57;04 – 00;17;05;23
David Hall
It’s important to remember that every person is unique in introversion, and extroversion are only two dimensions of a complex and multifaceted personality.

00;17;07;24 – 00;17;31;17
David Hall
There is no right or wrong way to be an introvert, and introverts can have a wide range of social skills and communication styles. Also, remember that we think and then speak. This is normal. This is actually a strength of ours. There may be some normal silence in conversations due to this. Social skills are just like any other skills.

00;17;32;07 – 00;18;02;14
David Hall
They can be improved with practice and intentional effort. No matter where you start, you can always get better with time and effort and understanding. So we took a deep dove into ten of what I think are kind of ridiculous and silly questions about introversion that are often asked. And we explored the truth behind them. We debunked the myth that introverts can’t be successful in what are thought of as extroverted careers or that they don’t like people.

00;18;03;07 – 00;18;34;15
David Hall
We also discussed the differences between introversion shyness, social anxiety and explore the idea that introverts can be both introspective and spontaneous and many other things. I hope this episode has helped to shed some light on the real nature of introversion as we continue to dispel the myths and misconceptions that are often surrounded. Remember, introversion is a personality trait, and by understanding it, you can find all the success and happiness that you’re after.

00;18;35;14 – 00;18;58;28
David Hall
Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, you have unique strengths and abilities that should be celebrated and embraced. Thank you for joining me today. How do you take the time to explore other episodes and learn from other amazing guests? Remember, if you’re interested in getting to know yourself better, there’s now three types of personality assessment on the quiet and strong website.

00;18;59;18 – 00;19;22;20
David Hall
This free assessment will give you a brief report, including the four letter Myers-Briggs code. I’ll add a link in the show notes and I’d love to connect with you. Reach out to David at Quiet or check out the quite strong dot com website, which includes blog posts and links to social media for quiet and strong. Send me topics or guests you’d like to see on the show.

00;19;23;11 – 00;19;33;05
David Hall
Some of the great things about being an introvert and we need those to be understood. Get to know your introverted strengths and needs and be strong.

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