There seems to be a tendency to think of personality traits such as introversion or extroversion as either “good” or “bad.” The truth is that personality traits come naturally to us, they’re not something we can change, and one is not better than another. Each of us need to learn about our own personality types and the types of those around us to be our best and do our best.
I was having a conversation about Introversion and Extroversion with a extroverted friend of mine. I was talking about how one of the ways that I recharge is during the drive home after work. It is a great time for me to unwind and do some thinking. She mentioned that during her drive home she is calling people and doesn’t like quiet time during her commute. What a sharp contrast! I look to this time to recharge and it is during this quiet, alone-time that I do some of my best thinking, while she uses it to connect and “extrovert recharge” by conversing with others on the phone.
We also talked about our differences when entering a room of strangers. She is looking to meet every single person and make a connection with each and every person. I, on the other hand, am looking to make a connection with maybe a person or two on a deeper level.
These types of conversations comparing our differences help me better understand myself to see who I am and who I want to be. To listen to her describe her “extrovert” needs and how different they are than mine helps me see that we each do have different needs.
I have my strengths and needs and my friend has hers. I am a strategic thinker and am filled with ideas. My friend is so good at making instant connections. We each have our strengths and no one person has them all. Let’s keep talking so we understand ourselves and each other.
David Hall, M.Ed. is a speaker, author, and host of the Quiet and Strong Podcast, where he interviews thought leaders, creatives, and professionals who help introverts thrive. With over 25 years in higher education, David has led workshops, trainings, and presentations on productivity, personality, and introversion. His mission is to help introverts honor their needs, understand their strengths, and succeed on their own terms. He is the author of Minding Your Time: Time Management, Productivity, and Success, Especially for Introverts and a passionate advocate for creating work environments where introverts can do their best work.
